We all want to be loved by someone who loves as just as we are. Yet so many people have a such high expectations on how they have to look, how successful they have to be or how thin they should be in order to be a person that someone could fall in love with. Today’s media and the search for perfection doesn’t help us feel like we will ever get there either.
Law of Attraction says: like energies attract.

We have to feel loved, before we can attract love.

Are you a good receiver of love?

I was out with a few of my good friends last night. It was girls night and we were catching up as usual. The five of us were talking about everything – man, work, and also family and never really behaving kids. I personally don’t have children yet, but I m in a very fulfilling relationship. One of us was pretty quiet most of the time as she really haven’t experienced being in a happy relationship yet and has made an assumption that she will most likely never merry or have children.For a few minutes we have even discussed the option of adoption for her to be able to be a mom. It was braking my heart. Don’t get me wrong, I think adoption is a wonderful thing as there are so many children needing to be loved and taken care of, but I was sad that my friend was giving up on love for her self.

Lets call my friend Jenny. As long as I could remember she struggled with her weight and I have never heard her saying :” I like my body.” We now know each other for 25 years. The whole evening I have not heard her saying something that would indicate a loving relationship she would have with her own self. I tried to give her compliments, not a pity, but to make her see that she deserves them. “I like your top “I said. Her reaction was : “Ohhhh, it’s so old and it stretched out”. Then I attempted to tell her, that I like her hair color. She really looks better now, when she is a blond. Her reaction:” Its so dry from the coloring, I don’t know what to do with it”.I wanted to tell her: “Just say thank you and take it in, please.” This task was impossible for her.

Jenny is a wonderful, caring, loving, funny and in my opinion attractive girl, but feeling loved is something she experiences so little, mostly because she is having such a hard time trying to find the reason why a man would love her. In a mean while, her habits of self criticism and and her poor ability to receive any form of love are keeping her in the place of hopelessness that she will never have a “normal”, happy life.

The importance of practicing to receiving love.

The good thing is that the universe will never give up on us and it presents us with never ending  opportunities to have what we desire. At the end of the evening my friend Jenny said that her neighbor asked her if her apartment was available to rent for 10 days. She has a daughter coming to town to visit with her husband and needs a place to stay for them as her apartment is too small. Jenny’s neighbor noticed that she is not staying at the apartment very much and thought it would be wort asking . Just like any young woman, my fiend Jenny could use the extra money, but when she was asked about the renting opportunity, she never discussed the price of this 10 day stay at her apartment. All she said to me was:” I said Yes, absolutely !  I hope the neighbor will pay in the end. I ll leave it up to her”. To make it clear, my friend and her neighbor have never really spoken before.

To me this was an opportunity TO RECEIVE that my friend was facing and she was not realizing it at all again. Money is love energy (at least that’s my understanding) and it is as an important to know how to receive it as it is TO GIVE.

Is your giving and receiving of love balanced out?

The signs that you maybe a poor receiver of love:

• You don’t take compliments very well. In fact, they make you uncomfortable.
• You tent to refuse any kind of help, not wanting to bother people or take their time or money.
• You are independent. You never ask for help.
• You have a hard time asking for the things you want.
• You have to work hard for things before you deserve them. Unexpected gifts make you uncomfortable.
• You are a polite person. You always say: “NO, Thank you”.
• Life seams to be hard and it’s only getting worse.
• You could call your self unlucky.

If you are displaying any of these symptoms, its time to CONSCIOUSLY START PRACTICING RECEIVING .

HERE IS YOUR NEW BEST FRIEND: YES, THANK YOU.

Take it in and soak it up. How good can you take it?

Always take a good care of all three as much you can. Here is some guidance :

This blog will introduce you to different ways how to maintain beautiful and healthy body.

A man too busy to take care of his health is like a mechanic too busy to take care of his tools. Spanish proverb

The Detox idea.

Most people are now familiar with benefits of detox. The primary function of your body over night is to detox ,so it ‘s a good habit to have glass of water or two to flash your body before you have your breakfast. I always have a glass of Hot Lemon (hot water and squeezed half of a lemon).

There are many ways to detox out there for you to try. Its a good idea to start with only a few days (5-7 days is a good start and then you can slowly build your self up). It can be a very challenging but also extremely beneficial experience. I find it to be very effective way to establish new, healthy eating habits which is one of the main benefits in my opinion.

Here are some popular Cleanses/ Detoxes:
The Master Cleanse
The Acai Berry Diet
Colonix
Cleanse Smart
Ultra Colon Cleanse
Puristat
CleanStart
The Supreme Cleanse
Whole Body Cleanse
The Nature Cleanse System
The Grapefruit Diet
Evercleanse
Cabbage Soup Diet

The best definition I have found of theMaster Cleanse was written by Tom Woloshyn, a former student of the inventor of The Master Cleanse Stanley Burroughs.

“The Master Cleanse is a liquid mono-diet designed to work with and complement your body’s own cleansing and detoxifying processes, and at the same time to effectively nourish the body”

The liquid consists of fresh lemon juice, high grade maple syrup, ground cayenne pepper and pure water.

While it is true that no solid food is consumed on the Master Cleanse, The Master Cleanse is not a fast, nor do you starve your body. The diets provides sufficient nutrients, vitamins and calories in a manner that allows your digestive system to rest, so your body might concentrate on eliminating toxins.

Learn more about Mater Cleanse

Confidence is created within and is celebrated by the way we walk, talk and dress. Sunera is a Style coaching company that is always keeping this in mind. Some women have to start on the outside to create a higher degree of self-love . We live in a busy, demanding and stressful world bombarded by (a lot of times fake) perfection everywhere you look – magazines ,TV, and it just goes on…Sometimes it can be so hard to be good enough. In fact , sometimes it’s exhausting.

I don’t know who invented high heels, but all women owe him a lot.
Marilyn Monroe

What is Confidence?

Confidence is a degree of self -love and appreciation. When we feel beautiful (inside-out),others see us as beautiful. We all have a potential to be as confident as the famous Marilyn, I believe. Here is a story about her I absolutely love. I hope you get inspired by it.

A friend of late Marilyn Monroe told how, one summer’s day, she and Marilyn Monroe were walking in Manhattan, talking earnestly about a subject on which they both felt strongly. Marilyn was wearing no makeup, a head scarf, and a plain coat , and nobody noticed the famous movie star. As they came to the end of the conversation, Marylin whispered to her friend, “Shall I be HER now ?” Immediately she was recognized and mobbed, causing traffic chaos. Her friend says the amazing thing was that she did not seem to change anything outwardly, she just decided to think of herself differently – and the effect was INCREDIBLE.

This inspiring story is taken out of one of my favorite little books – A year of Spirituality by Ingrid Collins .

The pressure to be like the girl on the cover of a magazine is never ending these days. I say, give your self a brake for a day and love YOU and YOUR BODY as it is. Put on your favorite, flirty and fun outfit and pretend in your mind to be Marylin- beautiful and sexy and so lovable and watch what happens. You will be surprised by the effect of a new way of thinking about your self. Fake it till you make it. Pretend real hard. Its a fun game to play with yourself and the world around you.And if you do ,let me know how it went. I d love to hear it.

Beauty affirmations – Creating CONFIDENCE one sentence at the time.

What are affirmations ?

Affirmations are positive statements that describe in positive words a desired situation, event, habit or goal, and which are repeated mentally or aloud. When these statements are repeated often and in a certain way, they eventually take root in the subconscious mind and influence it to act accordingly.

When you repeat them with faith, earnestness and attention, they change the programming of your subconscious mind, which in consequence transforms the way you think, your habits, attitudes and skills, and helps you create a better life and attract new opportunities.

Your subconscious mind accepts as true what you keep saying, and eventually attracts corresponding events and situations into your life, irrespective whether they are good or bad for you, so why not choose only positive statements?

You can start building your CONFIDENCE NOW!

What is yours most common body talk? Is it: ” Oh god, I look so fat today ” or “Why can’t I have a great hair like Jane? “, ” I wish I had skin like my sister, she is so lucky.”

From my experience as a Style coach, it constantly surprises me how many women are abusing their bodies with the most awful statements, while I see a beautiful girl in front of me. Over time their bodies shut down to protect their well being and the disconnection is getting bigger by the day.

We can retrain our brain to see our bodies from a different perspective and as we do, our body starts cooperating with us to reach our common goals of feeling and looking our best.

Start a new, positive conversation with your body and start embracing it with love it deserves. Our bodies are little miracles that we need to respect and take a good care of with our thoughts, words and healthy habits.

Here are some examples of my favorite affirmations:

• I m beautiful, healthy and happy .
• I love my body, I love my skin, my arms, my feminine shape, my legs, my hair….you can create your own version.
• I take a good care of my body. I give it good food, I play and relax and do my best to maintain balance in my life.
• My favorite part of my body is……….., because……….(fill in the blanks) have fun with this one.
• I walk proud and confidant wherever I go. I accept compliments easily .

• I honor my body with great wardrobe to express how much I enjoy my body shape.
• I deserve the best.

This is a great book. It has many easy beauty tips and has more “Beauty mantras” as well. Take a trip to chapters, get a cup of coffee and do some positive reading. You ll enjoy this one.

You don’t have to spend s lot of money to look elegant and beautiful. Learn how to be creative with your current wardrobe by accessorizing right, understanding what works for your body type and what doesn’t. Putting interesting , balanced outfits together doesn’t have to hard.

Here are a few little tricks to creating your personal style:

Before we start I would like to express how important your Body Posture is . When you are hunched over looking like you wanna hide, it translate not enough confidence and the clothes doesn’t hang right. Walk proud and enjoy the attention of other people you are getting when you feel good about your self.I understand that many people have a bad habit of not paying attention to how they walk or sit…. but it makes a huge difference in how you appear to the rest of the world.

So walk proud and Vogue, as Madonna would say.

Ladies with an attitude
Fellows that were in the mood
Don’t just stand there, let’s get to it
Strike a pose, there’s nothing to it

Vogue, vogue

Knowledge is power, but only if you use it!

Use these tips and try something new.Play and have fun! Every woman can look good, mostly much better than we imagine. Keep an open mind and do this out of love for your self. That’s powerful !

1. Always Create a Feminine Shape.

If you can’t see your body shape under the big pile of clothes you are wearing you are now lost in it and far from feeling sexy.

Always create a feminine shape by defining your waist as the most narrow part of your body. Don’t go for too tight , fitted is what you are looking for. A lot of women actually don’t know what their size is. If you are one of them its time to take a trip to a store where you can get a lot of attention and advice to find your size. Another option is to hire a Style coach to help you. If that’s the case I ‘d love to help.

Coco Chanel ones said: “Look at the woman in the dress. If there is no woman, there is no dress.”

Pick clothes that’s fitting and helps you to create the hourglass figure. The more petite you are the shorter the jackets and the more you need to keep the clothes closer to your body.Petite shapes can get overwhelmed very easily.

The same applies to the ladies with a lot of curves. Don’t hide them! Show them off, it actually makes you look slimmer.Knee length skirt is always a good choice.

Wear form-fitting but not tight items. There’s nothing sexy about a muumuu. Fitted items can be as sexy as showing tons of skin and leaves something to the imagination. Wear a fitted pair of pants or jeans or a sweater that hugs your curves (even if it’s long sleeve, it will still look sexy). However, make sure the lumps and bumps (we all have them) are smoothed out. Body shaper will do the job.

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2.Good Undergarments.

Its the foundation for any outfits. Make sure you are creating shape that you want to create .The wrong bra can ruin your outfit. Avoid preventable fashion mistakes like visible panty lines or double-boob from ill-fitting bras by investing in properly fitting undergarments. Get fitted for a new bra and look for seamless underwear and body slimmers to support and smooth your body. Proper care and cleaning extends the longevity of each piece, keeping you in place much longer.

Here is a little demonstration:

3.The Style Basics

• Recognize your assets and choose clothes which flatter this part of your body.

• Show off your breasts OR your bum, never both in one outfit.

• If you have love handles or a round tummy, wear textured fabrics and wrap-around tops.

• If you have a short or wide neck, wear tops that are open at the neck, rather than high or round ones, to lengthen and slim your neck.

• If your clothes are too tight, you’ll look fatter not thinner; straining fabric is a style no-no.

4.Little Black Dress.

Every woman needs one! They come in all kinds of shapes and sizes and are always a safe choice when in a hurry or unsure about what outfit is appropriate for the event you are attending last minute.

Just be careful that safe doesn’t become boring . That a common mistake people make in this case.Make sure to express your personality with jewelry and accessories. You can go from day look to night look by adding a bold necklace and metallic clutch. I also recommend using punch of color to brighten you up.

5.Add Color To Your Wardrobe To Show Your Personality.

If you are not one of those women that have a very colorful wardrobe and you are not comfortable with a lot of bright colors, add some brightness with accessories.Red is always a great choice. It adds character and is an amazing contrast to the black color. Have some fun!

Get creative and use ribbons as belts.

6.Broaches -Little thing that can make a huge difference.

I love to add an interest to my outfits with this very simple accessory. You can go from day look to night look just by adding a little broach that cam make the outfit look very luxurious in an instant.

Pin them on the strap of your dress or any other area that could be the focal point of the outfit. I love using vintage broaches that look like your grandma gave it to you. You can buy them at great prices at vintage stores.

7.Give Your Scarfs Another Purpose.

Go through your closet and I m sure you will find a few of these treasures.I have a few. Scarfs are inexpensive and can be used in many ways. You can add color and texture to your outfits,but you can also turn it into top.This time I tied the top corners f the scarf around the models neck and pined the scarf in the back about 10 inches from the bottom half of the scarf.I added a vintage belt to define the waist.

You can make the simple t-shirt and jeans outfit look interesting and keep your self warm too. This look is great for Vancouver and its weather. Go from ordinary to cool in seconds.

8. Belt It up.

I absolutely love belts.I have a large collection of this useful accessory.The can define your waist and create all kinds of optical illusions. Being petite and 5,2″, I like how they make the lover part of my body look longer. And what woman doesn’t like to have long legs or appear like she does. This is an easy trick to create this illusion.

You can do two thing at ones – create a slim waist and elongates your legs. A must have accessory I believe.

It’s a great way again to add color and texture while creating more feminine shape. You can easily turn day outfit to night, glam one by add a great belt and bag. All you need is to put on some heels and you are ready to go out on the girls night out.

Having a variety of styles, colors will give you so much room to play around and create very interesting combination. And don’t be afraid to put together colors and patterns that are not a perfect match. Today’s fashion trends are very free and playful, so dare to do the thing you never thought you could do.

Life can change for better when you feel great about yourself.

Don’t underestimate the power of clothes and a great sense of style that fits your personality.